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Two days after we left the Mara, Toto's mum was found, but without little Toto. We'll never know what happened to him, but he didn't survive.


So as some of you may know, or may remember my last post that I was going to get married at the end of March. Well, that's not going to happen.

Jen and I are breaking up. No, just kidding, we're doing awesome.

We're running into the dilemma of who to invite and who not to invite. Our original plan was to have a small wedding but then started liking the idea of a larger wedding. It would be awesome having all our friends and family there...but at the same time we're realizing that's a lot of people. So now we're coming back to the original decision of having a small wedding with a handful of people. The problem with that is that we're trying to figure out where to stop. Our immediate family comes to nine people. The problem with that is that number doesn't include any of my older half brothers or sisters and their kids and their significant others.

So we don't really know what to do. We're really on the verge of just going to Vegas alone, or going to Hawaii alone. As awesome as that would be it would be so detrimental on our parents.

So who knows what decision we'll come to...


Work today sucks. Everyone seriously has sand in their vagina. The thing that sucks is that it's not customers that are pissy it's my coworkers. It's like coworker freak out day.

One guy is screaming and hollering about needing help. I'm thinking like, "how can someone let work under their skin that much?" Yeah, work bothers me once in awhile and can be stressful, but it would never make me freak out so much.

One guy got made at me because he thought I was calling him a fat ass. Seriously, this is how it went down:

Coworker 1 was talking about how he was going to make a bed out of bubble wrap. I said something like, "wont be very comfortable as all you'll be hearing is *pop* *pop*" So Coworker 1 says "I'll use the big bubble wrap. You have to be a fatass to pop that shit" So, I laugh and as I'm laughing I see Coworker 2 is listening to the conversation, so I look at him. He automatically screams and is like, "so you look over here as he says that, thanks I'm a fat ass!"

Wow, seriously dude, take one of these daily:


Thanks.


California is very wet right now. I usually like rain but damn it's been raining for far too long.

I felt like redoing my Myspace layout, not sure if I like it though.
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Add me if you don't already have me added.


Oh ya, I forgot to tell everybody. I'll be getting married sometime in late March. We pushed it back a couple months so we could do better planning. It'll probably be the last Saturday of March.

Would it be weird to ask everyone to pitch in for like a big screen HD TV instead of creating a registry? lol. Jen and I don't really need anything other than furniture that doesn't look like college student furniture, and a big screen TV would be awesome. We don't really need silverware or dishes or anything that most people put on a registry...unless we just replaced the stuff that we have now.

A new car would be nice too, haha, but we'll be buying that sometime soon ourselves.


PETA = People Euthanising Tons of Animals.

Apparently there's only a 3% difference between a PETA shelter and a slaughterhouse


Hope everyone had a good Holiday and has a happy new year.


when the world is ruled by money?

So...my mom's ex Mark now has "temporary" full custody. The court didn't really explain the temporary part, but to my understanding they'll talk about the temporary part at the next court hearing. That court hearing is about child support and not custody which will be in mid January but the judge said the issue can be mentioned at that point in time (whatever that means). Of course my mom is a wreck, she cried hysterically when the judge gave her decision.

I'm shocked by the decision, but I already knew the legal system we have in effect is really all about money and manipulation, not justice. I mean common, giving full custody to a single guardian is not good for the well-being of the children unless the guardian was abusive (physical abuse, substance abuse, or otherwise).

I mentioned in my earlier post that abuse was possibly going on (possibly sexual, and definitely physical). Both children were coming home to their mom and saying the exact same stories even when they were apart (HELLO! Kids making up the EXACT same story when they're not even together is highly unlikely in my opinion). My little brother even told me privately what was going on. Apparently my mother did report it a few months ago and Mark had to go through counseling and what not. However they NEVER talked to the children or did an investigation. The counselors found that there was no evidence for abuse (yes, you heard me right, their bases of no abuse was based off counseling and NOT actually trying to find evidence that there was abuse.

Now, because there was no evidence of abuse the mediator (and Marks attorney) both used that against my mother saying she "deliberately accused Mark of abuse to try and get custody of the children." At the end of court the judge basically said "I know the mediator is credible for years of being a mediator, and I will go with her decision." If you ask me, even if my mother did deliberately do something like this it does NOT (in my opinion) justify 100% custody to one guardian. My mother didn't do it deliberately though. If your daughter came back from someones house and said several times "he hit me" would you just blow it off? I think not. Any mother who cares about their children's well-being is going to protect their children at all costs. Instead, my mother got punished for it. Not only did my mother get punished for it, but what about the kids? Did the court and Mark forget about the kids? This isn't "what's best" for the kids. What's best for any child is to be with their mother AND father. I don't know what I would do without my mother, what would you do without yours?

I think the whole thing is bullshit (as you already know). I don't know what to do, I don't know what I can do to help other than being support for her right now.


So on Monday my mom might lose her kids. Right now she has 50/50 with her kids. Her ex wants even more, probably because he doesn't want to pay child support. The mediator has already told my mom that she's going to give Mark 100%. Most court systems follow what the mediator says. The mediator has been biased from the beginning. There's no reason whatsoever for my mom to lose full custody. She doesn't abuse the kids, she isn't irresponsible or anything, it's absolutely bullshit, she loves her kids to death. It's even worse that Cole and Alize are coming back from their fathers and saying how much they hate him and how he abuses them. Cole has mentioned quite a few times that Mark (the ex) will grab Cole by the neck and drag Cole into his room when he's being punished. He mentioned a few days ago the Mark hit him with a plate and with a belt. Alize mentions the same things. There are even signs of possible sexual abuse, but I wont get into that.

If Mark gets 100% then they'll be in this environment until my mom can fight back which usually means another six months for a court date. Cole is nine years old, Alize will be eight soon, so they're not old enough to legally choose.

I want to try and help but I don't think there's anything that I can do. I think the only thing I can do is cross my fingers...

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